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The day I called “dibs” on my future wife.

Many have asked how I got my wife to game. I don’t know how it is for others, but among my friends, there are only two kinds of couples: Mixed couples with one gamer…

…and BATTLE COUPLES, RAWR!

We’re a battle couple. We’ve played MMOs together. Platformers. Band games. Puzzle games. RPGs. Cards. Boards. Strategy. Despite our  introversion, our BATTLE COUPLE status is the envy of friends whose partner (for unfathomable reasons) does. Not. Game.

Worse, the Muggle determines all shared activities, insisting that the gamer watch tv during family time, but the Gamer can never ask the reverse (for the Muggle to join in gaming). It’s one-sided. Personally, I think both parties should make sacrifices.

Their stories are familiar and heartbreaking: The raid cut short because your partner was irritated. Leveling slower than your friends because the honey-do list (intentionally?) leaves no time for play. Audible nagging in Ventrilo’s background.

They all ask the same question: “How did you get your wife to game?”

Um…I didn’t.

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The Greatest MMO soon free

This article from Time examines an event I’ve eagerly awaited since…February. Not long, still exciting.

Star Wars: The Old Republic can’t keep up with its subscription model and is going free-to-play this fall. The game has fallen under 1 million subscribers, but bad news for Bioware is great news for me.

http://techland.time.com/2012/08/08/the-long-hello-or-goodbye-star-wars-the-old-republic-goes-free-to-play/

Matt Peckham examines the free-to-play model as the new MMO-standard, even citing World of Warcraft as joining the bandwagon. What Peckham doesn’t realize is that the WoW free-to-play model is a joke compared to others, with a level limit of 20, despite the fact that DCUO, Champions Online and a host of lesser-known MMOs offer free-to-play with no level cap, and even limited economy participation. WoW’s “free” model is more of a trial account, not a truly free model. Read More →

ASK JASON ANYTHING: How do I party like Jason R. Peters?

It’s a writer’s job to know a little bit about everything, and to thoroughly research anything he doesn’t know. ASK JASON ANYTHING is your opportunity to challenge Jason with a question of any kind, whether it’s scientific or religious, financial or social, political, historical. It can be something you already know, or something you’re genuinely curious to learn. You can ask trivia or knowledge or advice, and every Thursday, Jason will do his best to answer. (Read more atwww.jasonrpeters.com.)

Today’s question:

How do I party like Jason R.?

While this question relates to a very specific, memorable event with its own complex set of high and low points, it speaks to a broader aspect of my personal philosophy.

The asker posed the question after seeing me, a normally fairly reserved individual, fling myself at high velocity into all manner of hijinx. This was asked tongue-in-cheek because don’t seem like the guy to party with abandon. I get to work early, I dress conservatively even in my own home, and I’m fairly bookish.

However, there are times when I believe it is necessary to sink into the moment. This doesn’t mean sacrificing your principles or betraying your own values; on the contrary, you should embrace them more tightly. But most people spend their lives lamenting or idealizing the past and fearing or romanticizing the future. This kind of  introspection is understandable, and even healthy — to a point.

But there are a few times in life where you just shouldn’t worry quite so much about what tomorrow brings, or regret what you did yesterday. You should let go and experience the moment. A clenched fist cannot give or receive, but an open palm can do both. It is the selfish or frightened mind which clings tightly to safety nets. Make your mind like an open palm (an open mind is an open door) and things can be taken from you, yes. When you learn to be okay with that, you will find yourself learning and receiving things you never before thought possible.

How do you “party like Jason R.”? You party like you mean it. In other words, you don’t party as lip service to the person who invited you, or even to yourself. You party like you were given the gift of life from God Himself, fun activities to immurse yourself, enjoyable food and drink, and more good friends to share a moment with than I, at least, deserve.

I believe Dr. Richard Purkey put it best:

“Dance as though no one is watching you. Love as though you have never been hurt before. Sing as though no one can hear you. Live as though heaven is on earth.”

 A lifetime of disappointments and aches and pains have taught us to be cautious. While caution has its place, there is also something to be said for reckless abandon, without which most of mankind’s greatest discoveries would never have happened.

ASK JASON ANYTHING: Should you let a suffering loved-one die?

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TODAY’S QUESTION:

If a close friend or relative is greatly suffering, should you permit him or her to give up and die?

You’ve heard this circumstance. There’s an incurable disease. Or perhaps the cure is worse than the disease, like years of chemotherapy (particularly when it hasn’t worked). The afflicted has made his peace with god, with family, and with himself. And he insists its time to let go.

But you have this “respect for life”. You can’t sanction this person’s casting off into eternal goodnight. Or perhaps you believe that suicides go directly to hell. Or you’ll just miss the person too damn much. Whatever the case, you can’t let go.

Should you? Read More →

ASK JASON ANYTHING: The Bad Writer/Good Friend dilemma

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TODAY’S QUESTION:

My relative wants to be a writer, and she keeps giving me her work to read. It’s AWFUL. What should I do?

It’s never easy to criticize someone you like. Or at least, someone whose feelings you don’t want to hurt, whether you like them or not. Family connections are the most intricate, but even an acquaintance can trap you with those dreaded five words:

Tell me what you think.

This can become the cerebral version of “Does this make me look fat?”

For the individual who is both kind and honest, there is, unfortunately, no right answer.

But there are a few charitable approaches that tap-dance with the “wrong” answer:

You suck. Read More →

ASK JASON ANYTHING: Why does [an infinitely benevolent] God allow suffering?

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TODAY’S QUESTION:

Why does God allow suffering?

When you first study theology, this is one of the questions you find endlessly fascinating as a Freshman, and downright elementary as a senior. I almost feel like I’m cheating by using this question as content for an article.

However, the question was posed to me recently, and it occurs to me there are many unsatisfied with the apparent contradiction of a benevolent God and a world full of suffering.

To me, however, the arrangement makes perfect sense. Read More →

ASK JASON ANYTHING: How can I work effectively with co-workers I don’t trust?

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TODAY’S QUESTION:

How can I work effectively with co-workers I don’t trust?

How do I effectively communicate my ideas without the ideas pushed aside? How do I deal with my knowledge being questioned, my directions and suggestions being ignored, and things going on behind my back?

I’m going to dive right in with the blunt response:

You can’t.

If the question had been, “How can I best work with co-workers I don’t trust”, or, “How can I most effectively work with co-workers I don’t trust”, I’d have some wiggle room. I could talk up the potential while downplaying the limitations, but the question was:

“How do I work effectively with co-workers I don’t trust?”

And the short answer is you can’t. Read More →